Family Manual - Quick Reference

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General
🍲 Food Rules
  • Whole natural foods only - meat, fish, eggs, fruit, honey
  • Protein FIRST at every meal, then carbs
  • NEVER: ultra-processed food, seed oils, deep-fried
  • NO microwave - stovetop or oven only
  • Always eat at table, never walking around
  • Don't force food. If they stop, take it away calmly
  • 20 min for brain to feel full - don't rush meals
☀️ Sun & Outdoors
  • Morning sunlight within 30 min of waking
  • Avoid peak sun 11am - 2pm
  • Long-sleeve swimwear + wide-brim hat
  • Seek shade for extended outdoor time
  • Minimize sunscreen - clothing + timing instead
💧 Water
  • Best: mineral water (bottled)
  • If unavailable: filtered water
  • NO sugary drinks, juice boxes, or soda
📱 Communication
WhatsApp update every few hours - even if everything is fine
  • Tell us: sleep/wake times, location changes
  • Tell us: anything unusual or if she seems unwell
  • NO photos on social media
  • NO sharing photos without our permission
  • Sending us photos/updates is always welcome
🚨 Emergency
Ambulance:1669 Police:191 Fire:199
  • Call parents immediately for any concern
  • NO medicine without asking us first
  • Stay calm, stay with child, describe what happened
Household
🍳 Kitchen
If it touches food, it should NOT be plastic
  • Cutting boards: wood only
  • Utensils: wood or metal
  • Pans: stainless steel or aluminum. No Teflon
  • Cups/plates/bowls: glass, ceramic, or metal
🍇 Fruit Washing
  • Safe (peelable): watermelon, pineapple, mango, banana, papaya, dragon fruit
  • Must baking soda wash: grapes, strawberries, blueberries, cherries - any skin-on fruit
  • 1 tsp baking soda per 2 cups water, soak 10-15 min, rinse
🛒 Groceries
Unwrap ALL plastic from groceries before storing. Nothing goes in the fridge in plastic.
  • Store fruits in fridge when possible
  • Use glass jars, containers, or cloth bags
🧹 Cleaning
  • Kitchen/food areas: water + vinegar spray only
  • Bathroom/floors: standard products OK
  • NO synthetic fragrances anywhere (detergent, air freshener, cleaning products)
🛁 Bath & Soap
  • SLS-free, paraben-free, fragrance-free only
  • One soap for both hair and body
  • Hair wash: every 2 days (not daily)
  • After pool: must wash hair with soap
👚 Laundry
  • "Cottons" program (~2 hours)
  • Both detergent AND softener - don't skip either
  • Dry in shade, not direct sun
  • Pajamas: worn twice before washing (unless dirty)
👶 Diapers
  • Cotton cloth diapers at home, disposables for travel
  • Change every 1.5-2 hours
  • Wash 60C, no fabric softener, sun-dry
  • NO "bamboo" or "charcoal" diapers (fake)
Childcare
⏰ Daily Schedule
WakeLet her wake on her own - never wake her MorningBreakfast + free play / daycare AfternoonNap. Fruit snack before or after ~6pmDinner at table ~7pmWind down: yogurt, shower, book, brush teeth 7:30-8pmSleep. Consistency is everything.
After yogurt bottle: NO active play. Only calm activities. Goal is to ease into sleep.
💗 Your Role
You are a GUIDE, not an entertainer. Create a safe space and let her lead.
  • Make things playful, not commands. Give choices
  • After instructions, count to 10 before repeating
  • Describe actions, not generic praise:
    "Good job!" → "You stacked those blocks so high!"
  • Don't finish her sentences - let her find words
🎨 Independent Play
If she's playing alone - that IS the ideal state. Leave her alone.
  • Let her play by herself - go do chores
  • Boredom is OK and productive
  • Invite her to help with chores - kids see it as play
  • DON'T interrupt focus - not to help, praise, or correct
  • DON'T do things for her she can do herself
🛡 Safety
Pool doors ALWAYS closed. Never unsupervised near pool - not even for a moment.
  • Only authorized people can be alone with kids
  • Unknown person at door? Don't let them in. Call us.
  • Sharp objects, chemicals out of reach
📺 Screen Time
NO screens during the day. No TV, no phone, no tablet.
  • Only exception: travel (car / train / plane)
💔 When She's Upset
  • Name the feeling: "You seem frustrated"
  • NEVER: "Stop crying", "It's not a big deal", "You're fine"
  • Help her go through it, not "get over it"
If unsure about ANYTHING - call us. We'd rather get 10 unnecessary calls than miss one important one.