The culmination, not the afterthought. Independence and the actual sentences she needs with other children — which, with a baby brother in the house, is the most useful thing in the whole term.
You need: Small real jug, small real glass, cloth, real plates
Demonstrate slowly and silently, then hand it over. Spills are not failures — the cloth is part of the material.
You need: Nothing
Rehearse the exact sentences while everyone is calm: "I'm still using that." "Can I have a turn?" "I don't like that." She will use them for years.
You need: Leo
Give her a real job with him — fetching a nappy, singing to him, holding a foot. Real responsibility beats being told to be gentle.
The whole sequence unsupervised: pour her drink, lay the table, clear her plate, wipe up. Everything from week 1 onwards, run by her.
Pretend play with other children — shop, kitchen, doctor. Peer play is a developmental domain of its own and it does not happen at a table.
Optional. Pause on each situation and ask what she would do — she will have an opinion.
Ask what she would do, then actually listen to the answer.
Press ⌘P — only the sheets below print, never this plan. A4, no scaling.
Tape it at her height wherever the water is.
Cut along the dashed lines. Keep them in an envelope.
Labels for the adults as much as for her. Use the exact phrasing every time so she hears it the same way twice.
Week 12 — Doing it herself, and getting along. One line a day is plenty. Write what she did, not what she got right.
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Week 12 — Doing it herself, and getting along